Anyone else got a really childish relationship with their brother (and both nearly 50)?

[mollyt]

Just had a week away with my kids,mum and brother and his kids.jesus I came away fuming mainly because of the constant sarcasm, cruel jokes and general unfunny piss taking by brother.he has always been like this but I just thought to myself I'm too old to take this shite anymore! I found him bullying and irritating .we live very different lifestyles and he really mocks my simple but happy choices in life.dont want to upset my mum and cut all ties but just feel like I'm too old to put up with this crap.anyone else have any similar experiences?

Same here. I find myself thinking “just say something normal without the goddamn need for sarcasm all the time!”

Fortunately my mum sees it too. But he has lovely kids and so I suck it up to be near them.

Yup! Just the same. Mercifully he lives in LA so I don’t see him often. I do love him though.

Not just me then.i love my nieces too so will do same. Annoyingly my mum thinks it's just harmless fun in a 'boys will be boys '
way which drives me effing nuts.

Totally. Then I end up getting angry and upset and it’s like we have reverted to being 10
I try hard not to. But every fucking time.
I limit to 3-4 days MAX
anything beyond that, is too hard

Same. Me and my brother are both on our 40's, but he still drives me mad. He's so arrogant and obnoxious sometimes. Yet other times he's nice as anything and I'm meant to just ignore all the times he's pissed me off!

Na, we just flat out hate one another

Exactly that I'm annoyed that he can still wind me up but he just really boils my piss like no one else. He's sooo charming to everyone else's though. I think next time we say 2 days together tops and leave on a high. My mum refuses to see his mean side and always has which hurts though.

Last time we had an argument, he wound me up to the point of boiling over and THEN it was all my fault.
Phone call to my dad about it. Mum telling me I need to take the upper hand.
FYI
40 and 37
Ffs

Exactly the same here. I'm nearly 50 and brother is a couple of years older. My DM thinks he is golden boy, Mr perfect, prodigal son. only see him twice a year probably but yes he will still try and get a little dig in, in a 'banter' way, just as he did when we were kids. I just try and ignore and rise above it now. I know exactly what you mean though OP.

Glad it's not just my weird family that has this nonsense. I have always bitten my tongue but a light went on in my head at the end of the week
Together and I just thought ....I don't have to see this guy ever again if I chose not to.sad but kind of liberating.wish he could stop being a knob though so we could just be mates.he's very different with everyone else.effing families.