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My partners children are really badly behaved!!

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Vealem1977 · 29/07/2018 19:13

Really need some advice. Have been in a relationship for the last year with a really lovely man. The only problem is that his children are really badly behaved and he doesn't get why this annoys me.
I have worked incredibly hard to bring my two children up well. I have a great relationship with their dad that we work on constantly and we both dedicate a great deal of time into making sure our children have manners, social skills and consideration for others. They are not perfect and neither am I but we try.
My partner however dedicates all of his time with his kids to them having fun but does not discipline them at all. As a result they jump all over my furniture at my house, push trolleys into people in the supermarket and the eldest shouts and screams when he doesn't get his own way and has even hit his own mother.
I am extremely worried that if I continue this relationship it will have a negative impact on my kids, and that I will loose my temper with his kids which I don't want to do.
Opinions please.

OP posts:
BlankTimes · 30/07/2018 17:38

As a result they jump all over my furniture at my house

They wouldn't do it in mine, I wouldn't tolerate it. I'd repeat "You can do whatever you please at your mother's house, but when you are here in MY home, you have the same rules as my children. If you don't like it, then leave"

I'd end things with him and tell him exactly why.

If you want to continue the relationship, sit your partner down and lay the law down, from now on his kids behave or it's over.
He needs to reassess his priorities, being a "fun Dad" does not mean letting kids do whatever they please.

push trolleys into people in the supermarket
Did you see a recent thread on here about kids behaving badly in supermarkets and one poster's elderly parent having been hospitalised by some kid misbehaving in a supermarket and another poster's elderly relative now afraid to go to the supermarket after a similar incident?

Has he even considered the impact on him where if his kids injured someone, they may well contact one of the Personal Injury Claims solicitors.

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