Hi
I’ve been with my husband for nearly ten years, I got with him at 20 and our relationship moved very quickly. To begin with everything was great, we had a tough time conceiving our little girl and she was very poorly but we got through it and she is now 5. But for the past 2-3 years things have been hard. I am extremely driven, have always chased a career and last year I started my own business which due to the nature of what I do is very stressful but I enjoy it. I’m really into fitness, train 6 times a week and I’m generally a positive, motivated person. He is a very steady, happy to bob along person, he isn’t interested in a career, refuses to learn to drive and spends most of his time playing computer games. Now I do love him, he is funny, can be very thoughtful etc and we have a great sex life, but I can’t help but feel we have grown in complete opposite directions. I try and motivate him as at the minute I pay for most of the bills, I drive him everywhere, pay for my car, fuel, childcare etc. But everytime I mentioning him learning to drive (so it takes some pressure off me) I just get told to shut up and he says things like “go be with someone who can drive then”. I just feel trapped because I can’t seem to get him to become better for us as a family. We aren’t intimate at all, apart from sex and even then we don’t cuddle or anything. I just feel so lost and have noone to talk to.