His affair

[foolinlove]

As some of you know, I discovered my husband's affair earlier this year. I have now discovered he gave her my phone number - when updating my privacy settings on my WhatsApp, her number (I gotten from him) was under blocked and I had not blocked her. He claims she went crazy and he was scared she would contact me. Why didn't he tell me this? Why did he give her my number after d-Day, after he said he'd cut contact in case 'I called her'? I've made him change his phone number but I can't take anymore of drip feeding.

Because he’s lying to the pair of you.
Would be the probable reason.
Don’t try and fathom why. You’ll never get the answers you want.
You can either pretend to be ok with what he tells you and carry on with life as is or not.

I'm not sure exactly what's happened re. the phone number, but whatever it is, it's disorientated you. You're probably better off without him if things like this are continuing to cause you to feel anxious.

Sorry my post wasn't clear:

1. He gave me other woman's number on D-Day to make me feel 'safe' in case so I could recognise he number if she called my husband's phone.

1. Several months later, I noticed the other woman's number blocked on my own phone. I had not blocked her and my husband confessed that he had done this when confronted.

1. I received a missed call from an unknown number - the other woman. My husband confessed he had given her MY number after D-Day in case I called her. This means my husband still was communicating her after D-Day even though he said he ended the relationship that day.

1. I made him change his phone number.

I know it is an absolute mess and things are probably beyond repair :(

He's been very cunning. It doesn't look promising OP.

Oh what a shame for you OP. Sounds like he was covering bases on all counts hoping neither one of you would actually call his bluff and ring each other!

Have you spoke to him about it?

Sadly I think my point still stands. He went into your phone and blocked her number

He gave her your number so she would know if it was you calling.

None of this sounds like he stopped communication with her.

Is this the guy that paid the OW shitloads of money? He's so keen for you two not to talk I think you need to speak to her.

You discovered he'd had two affairs and he's given one of them a six figure sum? Now he's giving out your number?

Just divorce him already!

He was probably calling her and/or WhatsApping her (for whatever reason) from your phone (maybe his battery was dead and he grabbed yours - maybe he thought he could trust her at the time not to cause problems). Afterwards, he's realised the error of his ways and was worried she might message/contact you. Depending on your handset settings, you might find that he's also blocked her calls and text messages.

Oh Christ he’s the payout guy.
Really you need to get the fuck out now.
This is some serious shit he’s hiding.

I've stayed thus far for the children. That is the only reason.

I don’t see how that decision does your children any good.
Impo

He's trying to make sure you and her don't communicate.