Social services being involved

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I was pregnant and was dealt with an assault with my ex partner was i was 3 months pregnant wasnt anything big but he pushed my with intent. I seperated and moved away. When my child was born i was ok for him to see her under supervision. Everything was well up until he lost it one day and pushed me again i called the police once again and put a statement through. Next day he was at my door step crying and begging to come in he got suicidal and told me he would hurt himself outside my door step. I got scared and let him my daughter was sound asleep when this had happened and hour later the police arrived i didnt inform them they came and searched the house and found him i lied to them by panicking and said he wasnt here and then they found him. Before going the police told me it wouldnt look good with the social services i admit to breaking the rules and letting him in but i was all done in fear i couldve called the police but i didnt want to take my phone put infront of him and ring incase he got violent i was plannjng on reporting as soon as he left. I showed the police evidence to where he was getting suicidal over text and they took pictures of the text. I am now scared the social servies ate going to come and take my baby away because i let him in and lied.

Hes never hurt our daughter hes always loved her to bits. It between us both whatevers happened.

No, love, it's not. Any man who will hurt a woman who he's been in a loving relationship with has the potential to hurt a child. He is not safe to be around your child.

Keep him out of your life, get help.

Yes i know why do you think i rang the police and gave a statement why do you think im ready to get a molestation order i am getting help. But im saying So far.

They won't take your baby away. They will just want to offer support to help you understand domestic abuse more and there may be stipulations that if you see him again it's when your child is not present

Haffiana. No i will not let him in again this time i would ring the police and let them come and sort him themselves this time i would be more warey about the sitatuion iv made a mistake one mistake enough for you to judge me this much. Please. There are alot worse things that are going on and you pin pointing on me for slipping once ONCE im i not ahowing enough in this threat how badly iv learnt my mistake thanks bu you coulsnt be any harsher i am not a risk to my child at all me not putting a statemenr through me not taking him to court me not putting in a molestation order Is my being a risk to my child.

There is no call to be rude to people who are jsut trying to give you advice, even if you don't like that advice. Unless you live in the quietest most crime-free place in the world, the police dont have time to patrol around the streets looking for people parked where they shouldn't be.

You've made two huge mistakes (letting him in and then lying about it), but hopefully you have learned from them. SS have to go through a very long process to take your baby away from you, you will be given chance after chance to sort your life out. So, start sorting it now. Get rid of the useless boyfriend. Do not let him in again. NEVER lie to the police, He absolutely does have the potential to hurt your baby, so do not allow him the opportunity.

I am very sorry to say that you ARE a risk to your child. You do not keep to boundaries. You say that you won’t see him and then let him in the house. Of course SS will look into your case and may decide you are unable to protect your child from this man.

Certainly all the he would never hurt her, he loves her shit will worry them. Do you REALLY believe that a man who has the capacity to love his child would ever inflict pain on the mother of that child, or stand on the doorstep threatening to commit suicide?

Don’t see him again. Don’t lie to the authorities. Put your child’s safety before anything else and you might have the opportunity and privilege to look after her.
Sorry if this seems harsh...but it’s nowhere as harsh as the consequences of not protecting your child.

You let an emotionally unstable man into your house who has been violent towards you in the recent past. He could have murdered you and/ or your child.
Just stay the fuck away from him and cooperate fully with police and SS.

Yes i know im mot being rude i am just hurt and thinking the worst. I have learnt from this and thank you to all that have gave their honest advice. Whatever jv said is the truth i havent missed anything out.

When did all this actually happen, op? Have social services made contact with you?
I think you’ll need a better line than ”I swear I’ll do it differently next time”.
Why would they believe you? You’ve already lied to the police who were trying to help you.

I wou,d advise you to look at the Freedom Programme on-line before you meet SS. It will help you understand the risks of being with a man like this. I also suggest you put off any more babies until you understand what a decent man, worthy to be the father of ypur child, is really like. Otherwise SS will be a feature of your lives for many years to come.