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How to deal with EA ex

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carriemathisonshandbag · 28/07/2018 22:55

I have brought the DC to stay near him for a couple of weeks so they can spend some time with him. They are with him tonight and I am in a hotel nearby.

Just like in our marriage sometimes he can be nice as pie and other times horrible. Yesterday mostly fine. This evening he has been texting saying that DC1 has been repeating things she has been told or overheard (apparently by me) about him. He says that I lie easily from a legal perspective Confused. I am not 100% sure what he means about me lying. I did have him arrested though and it was not a decision I made easily.

He has only given one example about DC1 which is that she keeps requesting a song which happens to be about the break up of a relationship. Not an unusual theme for songs and it is one that is on a compliation CD we have in the car. I don't even really like it, but it is catchy.

Despite not answering my questions he then tells me that he can see that my gaslighting hasn't changed much. I don't know whether to laugh or cry. I have chosen crying Sad. I have another 10 days of this shit.

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KataraJean · 28/07/2018 23:01

Do not engage. The only conversation you need to have is need to know practical information about care of DC. Everything else is continuing the EA, so do not respond.

ivykaty44 · 28/07/2018 23:03

Why are you staying and not going home?

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carriemathisonshandbag · 28/07/2018 23:10

Why are you staying and not going home?

When we split up I moved back to be nearer my family, 300 miles away (both for financial and social reasons). He threatened to punch me, tried to kick and push me, slammed a door in my face and he was convicted for assault. He hates me for both the conviction and moving the children away. I can't say I blame him for that, and neither were easy decisions.

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carriemathisonshandbag · 28/07/2018 23:12

Sorry I realise I didn't answer the question properly. He is having them at weekends and I am having a holiday with them during the week as he is working. I am then leaving them for a week when he is on leave. It was done to save on all the travelling they would otherwise have to do during the summer.

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Singlenotsingle · 28/07/2018 23:12

Well, you won't be doing this again, will you? That's if it even lasts ten days!

Maelstrop · 28/07/2018 23:16

He’s physically abusive yet you’re leaving the kids with him? I’d be telling him he needs to go through a contact centre. Talk to your lawyer.

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