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Leaving my partner - full of doubt - is this normal?

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Supermummy101 · 28/07/2018 20:05

I'm splitting form my partner - we have been together 2 years but there are very reasons but nothing big- just things like we don't seem to get on like we should and we don't make each other laugh and he's a little arrogant + obsessed with saving all his money to build his huge pension. He doesn't treat me to the odd weekend away (I know that sounds old fashioned!).

Overall I just don't feel madly in love with him and like hes my best friend/soul mate.

Anyway because there is no big reason.. no lying cheating or abuse I'm constantly doubting my decision and I feel sad.

Is it enough to go with your gut and end it even though you're not sure you should?! A huge part of my fears is not meeting anyone else (I'm 36 and not exactly an oil painting!).. :-/ I'm also conscious this could mean no second baby for me which is sad.

Has anyone else been in a situation like that and petrified of letting go of a good man for no real reason and then had a happy ending? X

OP posts:
HonkyWonkWoman · 28/07/2018 20:09

Does he know that you're leaving him?
Have you told him all the above?

Supermummy101 · 28/07/2018 20:10

Yes I have told him the above.. it's been going on for so long

OP posts:
Seniorschoolmum · 28/07/2018 20:19

Has he done anything about it? Any gestures of affection? Any meeting you half way?

To be honest, if you feel like this after two years, how will you feel after 20 years? I think your instincts are perfectly reasonable.

HollowTalk · 28/07/2018 20:21

You say you have a child, but is he the child's father?

Supermummy101 · 28/07/2018 20:34

No, this is 2nd relationship he's not my child's dad

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ThinkingCat · 28/07/2018 21:16

Why don't you have 'a break' from the relationship, if he is willing, and see how you feel in maybe 3 months.

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