Brothers partner assaulted him

[MadamBatty]

Brother has just left. His partner of 18 months hit him with a shoe repeatedly this morning. He has quite a deep cut on his head. She’s just discovered she’s pregnant & said it’s her hormones he doesn’t know how she feels.

He seemed in a daze. How can I besr support him?

Thanks all we’re not in UK but will find mankind equivalent. He will find it hard to see himself as a ‘victim’.

He’s a big man, she’s average size. He was in bed when she whacked him. He said ‘ I’ll drive to X house (his oldest pal). For his 40th birthday,’. She started hitting saying ‘. how could you consider going when I’m pregnant you’re staying here’.

My brother stayed during the pregnancy (the DV started before).

He finally left her when she kicked him whilst he was holding their daughter. My sister witnessed it and called the police.

He also has a scar down the whole side of his face where she broke a glass bottle and dragged it down his cheek.

If he doesn’t want to go to the police I would suggest you keep detailed records and pictures if he’ll let you take them. It’s good he’s come to you. Make sure he knows he can always come to you.

I am concerned that she used a weapon as that’s how it escalated for my brother; can of coke to fingernails to hammer to the broken glass. I really would get him in touch with mankind. There may also be a male support group near you.

With my brother it was the instinct to protect his daughter that made him stay and that’s a hard one to get them through/over.

I really feel for both of you.

He really needs to report this, so safeguarding can be put into place for his child. Can you try and persuade him from that angle?

As Atillia says he’s learned that if she’s hitting him is ‘not that bad’. I’ve done a lot of work on myself so I’m hyper vigilant to the idea of any kind of abuse

Cocoa the idea of a child for him is a bit out there for him at the moment. As the pregnancy progresses & it gets more real I believe he will get the idea of protecting his child

Thank you all, this is really helping me

Lance I’m sorry for your brother, that’s really useful advice though. Thanks.