Partner called me boring - where do I go from here?

[Lyinglow50]

I've had a lot on my plate recently and not in the best form. Yesterday my partner of 7 years was rude to me in front of his family. I was very surprised because he wouldn't normally do that.

I pulled him up on it later and he said I was being boring and that I do go on. I know you don't know me but I'm not boring. My DD who is 100% honest laughed and told me I'm not boring.

I have friends and family who like me and we get along well.

I'm really hurt by what he said. I am also embarrassed by the way he spoke to me in front of his family.

He has rung a few times today but I ignored him. He is under pressure at the moment too but I can't help thinking that he really thinks that.

Generally we get along well, chat and laugh at lot, have a good physical relationship and our families get on.

Am I over reacting? Thanks for reading.

Very good point elastic it would be a long 7 years. We normally behave like adults but not that day. Jane it's not a splitting offence at all.

Today I'm wondering why I even cared so much. Normally I would have told him to get lost and pointed out a few of his faults. Childish I know.

I am going to blame the heat. Thanks for taking the time to post.

Sometimes we can hurt or have our feelings hurt. It's how it's dealt with that' important.

When you tell him that he was rude and he hurt your feelings, ask him if you irritate him a lot when in mixed company. If he's as decent as you say then he'll be sad he upset you and will rein in his thoughts next time just because he's hot and bothered.

Category I know I should have used adult strategies but by God it was a stressful day. I won't bore you with the details.

We generally communicate well but that day all my strategies went out the window and the only strategy I came up with was to flip out.

He was probably ringing me to apologise. He is a decent old spud.

Everyone has shitty days when they're not at their best. he had one that day and took it out on you. Maybe you had a bit of one too, given it was a stressful day for you too, and maybe you were wittering on about something - which we all do sometimes without realising it.

Drop it. Unimportant. You know you're not boring and you know he's not normally unfairly critical. Don't sulk and strop. Go for a long cool drink and do something fun together. Forget about it.