Would you be upset?

[Fabricwitch]

I don't know how I feel about this.
I had minor surgery as an outpatient today.
There were no problems, but still in a little pain and slightly nauseous. I don't need "looking after" as I can do everything for myself.
I went alone and my mum picked me up and brought me home. DH and I are living with my parents at the moment, but stay at his parents a lot of weekends. It was easier for me to come back here, but he's still going to his parents. So I haven't seen him since before the surgery and won't see him until Sunday.
It's not really a big deal, like I said I don't need any help, but I feel like it's always this way when I'm sick, he doesn't really care, but when he's sick I make him food/drinks, let him relax etc even though he could do those things himself.
He's text me asking about the procedure, dressings etc but not actually asked how I was.
I don't really know what I'm looking for apart from a bit if a rant. And to know if I'm being unreasonable to be upset!

Aren't you with your mum and dad so not on your own as such?

It would probably not have crossed my mind that I should be there when people (your parents) are already there. If you'd been on your own I think it may have been different.

burnoutbabe
I'm at their house but they were not here last night. My mum was with me for a while yesterday.

Where was he last night then? Why couldn't he have seen you?

BigSandyBalls2015
He stayed late at work and by the time I told him I'd like him here the next bus was 11:30 so he wouldn't have been here until after midnight.

He still could have come, but there really wouldn't have been any point, so we agreed there wasn't much point but he'd come home tonight. I'm working today so he should be home before me.

You're working today?

Yes, I'm working today.
I thought I made it clear that this was minor surgery, not a big deal, and I can still do everything fine? The hospital told me to rest for 24 hours, which is all I got before back to work. That's why I felt silly for being upset he wasn't here. I feel like crap and wish I wasn't working, but that's life.
I feel like a lot of these questions are kind of irrelevant but I've worked it out with DH now so all is good

It's relevant because you were saying you were sick and needed him there. Which you now say you didn't.

So it alters the responses

You don't NEED him to look after you, but common decency says that he should at least be at your side. I don't want to tell people what to do, I want them to be considerate out of their own free will and conscience.

He's inconsiderate. Thoughtless isn't a good quality.

Another thing, maybe he isn't good with other people suffering and wants to keep away.

Cleaningthefours
I understand that, just thought I'd made it clear from my first post that I didn't need him. I did use the word in passing in a later response. But I also do need/want different things from my husband than I do my workplace.