How to turn second date with lovely lovely man

[catsofa]

I went on a date to meet someone from a dating app. He was really really lovely in every way, but I just don't fancy him. Please help me word a message to him saying I don't want to see him again, I'm so crap at this!

I wish I we could be friends he's truly awesome, but I don't have enough time for the friends I've already got

Hey. I had a really nice evening and you're a lovely guy but I just don't see anything romantic there. All the best.

OP - he doesn’t need a friend, and best thing is just be honest so that no one wastes time.
Just say that you had a nice time but didn’t feel ....(enough chemistry, spark, etc )
Doesn’t really matter what you say, actually.
In OLD it’s a normal situation, he must have experienced that before.

Best to do it fast, so he can move on and pursue others.

Crap at this also but I usually send something along the lines of, I had a really good time but don't see it going anywhere romantically. And then I sometime add something really cringe on the end like Happy Fishing depending on how uncomfortable I feel!

I'd get in there first with the message though before he sends one saying he'd like to see you again!

dancingqueen he already has :(

I just really wish I did fancy him, he was awesome and he even smelt good. Started to convince myself that I was just being impossibly fussy and maybe I'd start to fancy him if I met him a few more times.

But realistically I know that's daft and I'd just lose the opportunity to do it quickly and relatively painlessly.

I know you should go with your gut, but people do grow on us. Do you not think a second date is worth a shot

If you did really like him, but just cannot imagine dating him, I would ask him whether he was interested in meeting as friends with no sexual spark.

If he says no, then well and good. I have never known on one meeting whether i liked someone, and just can't imagine asking myself to make a decision based on such little info.

[old gimmer]

@catsofa ahh, sorry!!

I don't agree that fancying someone always has to be a instantaneous thing, plenty of people have grown on me over time, maybe it is worth a second date?

I'd try a second date.....I didn't fancy my partner until a few dates in

The people I did really fancy first off never worked! X

Ah, it's too late now I've sent him a text. I've always found I do know or at least had an idea very early on, and I really don't have loads of free time and energy to spend making a new friend right now. Bummer though. Hope he finds someone good.