Splitting up

[Jamiem80]

My wife and I are seperating she and our DC are moving out to get some space. The problem is I'm at a loss as to where I stand. I still love her and this is not my choice yet whenever I ask about the longer term she and the future she is very non committal. I've mentioned divorce and she is totally against this but says she doesnt love me. If I'm honest I've shut down and detached to try and keep it together. Really really want us to sort things out but at the same time I dont want to waste my life waiting.

Shes against divorce but wants to leave you? Cant have it both ways. Always find it odd that the person leaving is often so reluctant to divorce. You can start proceedings, anyway. You might not want to divorce, but I assume you also dont want to stay married to someone who openly tells you they dont love you.

My heart still loves her and doesn't want her to leave. My head says time to move on. I'm struggling with mixed signals too today shes been very cold and dismissive yet previous few days we've been more intimate than in years in terms of talking and hugs and simple touching.

Wait for her to move out, have a week or so on her own to gather her thoughts and be certain how she feels.
It’s hard to think clearly when the other person is still living under the same roof, and the priority is to avoid a row in front of the dcs.