Is it rude?

[Inexperiencedchick]

Would you find it offensive if someone close to you texts you and when you reply back to their message with a question, they don't answer back?

I found it rude and keeping my distance...

The fact that I immediately replied back to their message was due my self critique and that I haven't checked up on them in couple of days. And when I quickly replied and asked what was wrong and what was the issue, they haven't replied back...

I just don't understand the whole point of texting me...

Would you find it rude?

I don't reply quickly, but that's just me. I don't expect replies quickly either though- so it works both ways.

No I wouldn’t consider it rude.

People text when they have a moment and then read the reply when they next look at their phone.

Not everyone is glued to their phones all the time.

Even if I do see the response I might be busy doing something else/speaking to someone. I certainly don’t drop everything to reply to text messages.

Not everyone is attached to their phone. I can go whole weekends without looking at it.
So unless they promised to come back to you within a couple of hours, no not really.

i often think to text someone before going to do something else, so text, put phone down or back in bag, get on with my day

This does mean people dh gets vexed as if he is up for a to and fro chat he's going to be disappointed cos I probably won't think to look at my phone again until i sit back down, or go to head off somewhere.

ALSO my phone is not good at making a noise if I am inthe text conversation, so I get a text, reply, set phone down, and without making a ping or anything another text arrives which I won't know about if I do not look.

I am not glued to my phone either...

I was discussing something with a friend who is and his wife with kids are in difficult situation. While being on WhatsApp with them I saw a message from him... Doesn't mean I am desperate or glued to the phone... Doesn't mean I was holding on to my phone and waiting when he texts me. As I said on my first post I have self critique in me and that made me feel guilty for not texting the previous days just out of curiosity... Hence my response was very quick...

You answered a message with a question ...maybe that is why they haven't replied ? Maybe they felt a lack of empathy - did you include a bit of "comfort stuff" eg oh sorry to hear that /blah blah ?

This was my reply:

"Hi babes, what is the matter with you? What is wrong?"

How long has it been ? Your message sounds fine to me .

To be honest I found it rude... He replied back the next day... say after 26 hours saying "he was with friends and relaxed"

So you are annoyed that he didn’t immediately pour out all his troubles to you just because you asked?

If he and his family are having a difficult time as you say why on earth would you not cut your friend some slack rather than being offended over nothing?