Time limit on I love you?

[blueskiesnsunshine]

Basically that. Would you put a time limit on a man telling him he loves you and if so, how long? How long is too long to wait?

I ask because mine still hasn't said this after 9 months... We had a chat around the 6 month mark where he didn't really give me a straight answer (assuming that it was a "no" from this).

Erm. It doesn't matter one jot when someone says they love you. It does not indemnify you against hurt or loss...so if he treats you nicely, that's loving isnt it?

I must be emotionally backward too, Ive never told DP I love him. Been together 3.5 years. Makes no difference to our actual relationship. Just something I have never related to as a concept. DP telling me he loves me wouldnt mean anything to me personally.

But I am in a small minority, I am sure, so I wouldnt advise anyone else waits years and years unless you know your DP is never going to express it in those terms.

My DP said he "didn't do love". Nearly ended it. (Old thread on here somewhere). Thank God I didn't, he always acted like he loved me and eventually, think it was at least 18 months later, he said it.

Still going very strong and four years in it's still great. It's what they do and how they treat you that is important.

I think it just depends how important it is to you personally, and what the relationship is like in general. My dp and I said I love you after about 2 months and by 6 months we were living together with a baby on the way. My relationship before that we still hadn't said it by 6 months, talked about it and agreed that if it hadn't happened by that point it probably wouldn't, so called it a day. For me being expressive with emotions is quite a big deal. But I have another friend who has been with her partner 5 years, living together and now talking about TTC and they've never said it. But they're very happy. So there's no magic formula, just personal preference.