How do I tell my husband he needs to lose weight

[cmayfield83]

Hello
I need some advice on how to approach this sensitive subject. My husband is slightly overweight, not loads but he had a belly on him. I am very into healthy eating and fitness and try to encourage him were I can by cooking healthy evening meals but when hes at work and if i don't cook he will eat rubbish.
He goes to the gym but isn't consistent with his workouts so it doesn't really make much of a difference.
Its got to the point where I don't find him attractive and i find myself looking at fitter heather men in the gym wishing my husband was like them.
I want him to do something about it and take it seriously but I don't know how to approach it without offending/upsetting him.
Please help

How about "You need to start thinking of getting rid of that gut or you'll end up a fat lonely old man".

It's what DW said to me. Worked too (after a fashion).

If your husband is only slightly overweight then it isn't really about his health. You have admitted to not finding him attractive. I'm not sure there is a way of tackling this nicely. He clearly doesn't care about fitness the way you do.

My DH is overweight, probably in the obese category. I am worried about his health and have told him so. I still find him attractive, and he still turns me on. I genuinely worry about his health though. And I have raised it with him. He doesn't care enough to change at this point. A person needs to want to lose weight for it to work. You can't make them want to.

I joined this site just to comment on this inquiry. I also have a great husband and daddy to my children. I am struggling really bad with accepting his huge weight gain. I do feel like I'm being vain but I can't help that. I can't help the way that I feel. I wish I could.

cmayfield83 I wonder what happened? 2018

My husband had an op last year and spent a month on bed rest. But ate the same as he did pre-op - we were working full time renovating a house so he was quite fit for his age.

So, no exercise, big meals meant he had put quite a lot of weight on. He knew it, but I did not know how to broach the subject. I still found him attractive, but his tum was just 'there'

Now I had put a few pounds on over the years as well, not too many but enough for things starting to feel tight. So I suggested we 'sort out' our eating habits. I do all the cooking, so just tweaked our diets with basically fewer carbs, biscuits, no crisps etc. He's sitting on the sofa munching an apple as I write this...

We weigh ourselves every day, he is quite competitive which helps. Over the last 4 months he has lost 20lb (I have lost 10). He looks so much better and I tell him so. He feels so much better as well and i keep reminding him that he's not carrying around the equivalent of 4 bags of potatoes.

So, could you suggest you both try to lose weight? Eat healthily, make it a competition?