Photos of children on social media

[Quirkycutekitch2011]

Me and my DP are expecting a baby and I already have a DC from a previous relationship. We’ve already agreed that there will be no photos/mention of the new baby on Facebook etc (for good reasons) however he’s now said I shouldn’t put any of my DC on there as it wouldn’t be ‘treating them fairly’. Just to add I’m not over the top with photos of my DC a few every month and my security is locked down - what are people’s thoughts?

My thoughts are that if someone wanted to target a child, they’d do so from seeing them in reality and following although the majority of cases are from people the victim knows.

I think the risks are too small for me to be concerned about SM and I subject my child to far greater risks everyday without too much concern.

Each to their own though. I can only explain my reasoning and fully appreciate we all see things differently and have different priorities.

Whether you do or don't put photos on social media is entirely your choice. But, yes I agree you should treat the children equally otherwise down the line they will want to know why it is one rule for one and different for the other, resentment and problems lie that way!
I do understand there could be valid reasons for not putting pics on for one, such as adoption or real child protection concerns but still in that case I think you should go the same for both. Just my opinion though.

There is definite risk of the baby being targeted- as it has happened with other family members and I totally understand that - however my DC has nothing to do with those people (neither do I)

This doesn’t make sense tbh. Surely if he’s worried about your baby being at risk then your other children are also? In which case the obvious answer is no photos at all?

Do you think maybe he's just a little concerned that people might find it a bit odd if you continue to share pictures of your other children but not the new baby? What does he mean by "fairly"?