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I'm too boring for him

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iamapixiebutnotaniceone · 26/07/2018 00:46

Partner of 17 years this week has told me that I am just too dull and boring for him. I probably am but I am heavily pregnant and already have HIS four children to take care of! I already know that he's only still here because of our children, I knew he was bored of me but to hear it from him hurts. I spend my spare time at home attempting to rest when I can, peace and quiet is rare in our house and it is exhausting for me right now. I don't even have the energy for my hobbies, let alone entertaining him! His spare time is spent at the gym. I don't begrudge him that but I feel like while I've spent the best part of the last decade having baby after baby for him, getting less attractive and more tired and worn out all of the time, he's out bettering himself and obviously feeling like he can do better than me now. It really feels like one great big smack in the face! I'm not bloody boring, I'm just exhausted and there is not a thing I can do about it!

OP posts:
Sisterlove · 26/07/2018 16:14

Did you want oe plan for all the DC?

BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 26/07/2018 16:16

I'm LIVID for you. Jesus fucking wept, men like this. I'm speechless.

ravenmum · 26/07/2018 16:37

Well, that was deliberately nasty. And he's been acting bored with you? How is it the other way round - are both of you getting snappy with one another? Living alongside another rather than together?

If he repeats it, you could ask if he's got anything productive or helpful he wants to say, or if he just wants to hurt your feelings. Ask how he's going to help you become more interesting again - will he take over more responsibilities so that you can go out and find yourself again, once no. 5 is old enough?

Would he go to couple's counselling? Do you want to put the effort in?

Coolhotsummer · 26/07/2018 16:40

Why did you have children for him?

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