Evening all, bit of background, STBXH left me and dcs this time last year. Had been with him 20 years, married 17 and he had been abusive to me on and off the whole relationship. Felt devastated initially but soon realised him leaving had done me and kids a massive favour. Said he had met someone at Xmas last year (don't believe wasn't waiting in wings). I have as little contact as possible with him and I had seen a therapist to help.me.with my issues and to move on.
Kids have gone off to his family today (I have cut ties with them too, another story ), I had 2 job interviews today and now I'm sitting here with my pets with pizza and beer watching TV. I'm a social person aND haven't had a relationship since the end of my marriage, want to focus on me and not rush it so if?/when I have a new relationship I don't pick an arsehole. Just feeling a bit down, will be 40 next year and after a year am wondering if I am destined to be an old spinster. I lost a ton of weight last year as hit the gym but have put some back on again as having been lax (due to.moving countries and finding new home etc). Just feeling quite lonely , even just some adult convo with the opposite sex would be nice! I'm quite independent and had a bit.of fun on a long weekend earlier this year (only a bit of kissing but not really attracted to guy at all buy felt a bit wanted iyswim, neither of us expecting anything serious).
Anyone have any positive stories to help me get over this feeling? Cheers