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Ex still being horrible

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rockstarchick · 25/07/2018 18:19

Left my abusive ex in March
Well jan/Feb but it took me that time to find a place
That place is coming to the end of its tenancy and now moving again
Let my ex back in a couple of times and all I've done this year is go round in circles !
I feel like I'm going mad !!!
I've just literally made a promise to myself and for my los sake I'm done but really done
I've blocked and deleted and sent one final email saying to leave me alone, all my reasons why and I have to refrain from giving in

He's very pursuading
He huffs, puffs, gets annoyed at the slightest of things, work comes before me and lo, he's in debt, put me in debt, I walk on egg shells
Nothing is his fault, it's all mine
So I ended it and then he turns up, begs me back, tells me he has nothing without me and cries and I've always given in

Not this time...I feel I haven't got over it coz I haven't gone no contact
I know I need to
Even when he got in contact although we weren't together
As we were in contact I haven't had a clean break

I'm emotionally drained 😞😞😞

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Thedutchwife · 25/07/2018 18:22

This is probably one of the hardest things you will go through Flowers

I’ve bern where you are.

Stop this cycle now because you are teaching your dc horrible life and relationship habits.

Dig deep love, you can do this. You don’t need s big explosive argument to go NC. You can just do it

rockstarchick · 25/07/2018 18:29

It's awful
I'm really not coping
I am trying but I can't....
It's been 3.5 years of inconsistency and I'm done in
Jan I decided I was done and moved out with my lo
We've started again and have a place although moving again so that's not helped
But I feel so so alone
I'm mid 30's and I feel my life's over
I love my lo of course but I feel like I'm just existing
She's wanted a day in today and she's been stuck watching tv all day
We went for a walk and I left the phone here as I was just getting horrible emails from him and I was replying
It's like I'm looking outside in screaming what are you doing girl ?!
I want a happy life and I feel bad for feeling not happy
I have my lo and she's amazing
But I don't feel enough for her
All my friends are married and everyone has their own life
I feel so lost and I can't seem to get out of this bubble
I really have tried and I'm exhausted
I can't remember the last time I felt happy and content x

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Sisterlove · 25/07/2018 19:14

Block him from emailing you if all he does is abuse you?

Or tell him you'll be looking at legal action if he continues because it's harassment.

With certain levels of abuse you can also look at third party drop offs to avoid contact altogether.

rockstarchick · 25/07/2018 19:26

So be fair I've been emailing back
Yeah think I'll do that - is it easy to do, can you do from a mobile or do you need a computer?
Do they know they've blocked you?
Coz thing is he's blocked on fb and what's app and he managed to see a post I posted which wasn't about him and he emailed me about it
It was a quote for my friend
I don't post scripted stuff
And then he said who was I talking to at half mid night as I was on messenger ? Surely
He shouldn't be able to see that

Thanks fuck he's not the father of my lo xx

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