Abuse verbal and emotional

[Daphne18]

Shouting, talking over me, hanging up the phone during an argument, telling me I'm too friendly, name calling bitch slut etc, trivialising my anxiety, shouting in public then blaming me for other people asking if I'm ok, telling me I'm selfish for buying Christmas gifts for his kids when he told me not to, ... feel free to add yours

Is he your ex? He should be

He has been my ex - several times -

Is he now though? None of this is ok

Yes he is - all I feel is tired

The last argument was about Christmas and where he would spend it - apparently I'm trying to tell him what he's doing 5 months from now etcetera - though him discussing a holiday in January is OK.

Talking about living together buying a house etc then when I raise the topic I'm trying to box him in.

All this hand in hand with telling me he loves me - I'm utterly exhausted - numb

Sounds awful hun
Sending hugs x

I feel numb - hopefully it stays that way
Thanks for responding

Im going through a terrible time at the moment
Some of what you've said I related to
I hope you feel better soon xx

Thanks - hope it improves at your end also

Not that it helps, but you are not alone - I have been in a relationship for 13 years with a man with NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). Obviously I didn't realise I was being emotionally abused to begin with, was completely sucked in by him, but having had some therapy, I have seen the light and now see what he has done to me and all the vile things I have made excuses about. I am in the process of getting my ducks in a row to leave, I can't just leave, for many reasons, but its making me feel better knowing I am taking steps towards a new life. Having wasted 13 years which have destroyed me as a person, Daphne18, and Rockstarchick - you both need to run for the hills asap, these people are incapable of change, its their personality; please don't make the mistake I made and waste years of your life with someone who emotionally saps the life out of you and drains any confidence you may have once had. Find a new life and be happy xxx much love xxx

I'm in counselling - trying to break away for good - I haven't responded to the text he sent me on Monday after his nastiness to me on Sunday nite. Mondays text he sent was like there had never been any issue?!😣.

He has ignored me since Monday and I haven't made contact - each day is a small victory.

Thanks for the advice NPAK - how do u make urself stop loving them?

Good for you for the counselling - it changed my perspective and reduced the stress massively. Honestly, I'd ignore the text, maybe delete it even, then you can't be lured back to it and sucked back in. Ah you see, I don't love mine; at best there are times when he can be humorous but overall he is very unpleasant so its not hard not to love him - plus I have a log of all the really vile and unpleasant things he has done to me over the years which I can look at if ever I think maybe he's not so bad - it soon brings me back down to earth. Each day is a small victory indeed - keep going, thinking of you xx