I married my husband cos he was/is a great guy and the first man to not cheat on me, abuse me or make me jealous.
I had a few doubts afew weeks before the wedding because of the way he was acting but carried on anyway.
Along came our firs baby and our world imploded. He was useless and mean.I got PND and everything sorta fell apart.
We clawed our way back, needed IVF to have our 2nd baby as my body had shut down. He was much better this time round.
3rd baby (conceived naturally) and he was good again too.
we have been through an awful lot of shit over the years and we have stayed together.
Never been the most happy relationship and 'goodness' has been judged on how much we are arguing or not.
I have discussed him leaving many times but he always refuses saying we will work it out.
We recently began therapy and i have been in intensive therapy for y own issues.
Things have gotten much better and i have not been angry at him all the time like i used to be.
BUT....we NEVER have sex.
We go YEARS without it!
I am fed up of this situation and cannot spend the rest of my life like this.
I have talked about it and he admits it is an issue.
He has no sex drive and as i cant use any birth control he doesnt like using condoms.
We did try 2 nights ago to do it but he was having trouble keeping hard - he says it is cos of the condom. This left me feeling totally unsexy!!
We have discussed him having a vasectomy for 3 years but he hasnt arranged it yet.
I am now at the point where i feel it would just be easier to separate and go about our lives.
I dont want to break the family apart and he is such a good Daddy.
The priority is the kids and i dont want them to suffer cos of us.
But i cant live sexless anymore!!
we dont share a bed and havent for about 5 years now!
Any advice?
Thanks