But of a long one. Realise it maybe small fish. Perspective please.
Dh and i have been together 5 years. There is DSD 7, DSD5 and DD 9m.
I love him dearly but recently has become angry, defensive and selfish.
We run a business together and he works 2 days a week elsewhere. I do the majority of the behind the scenes work he works 2 or 3 evenings a week at out joint venture, i do 1 (sometimes 2). I also pick up most of the childcare and housework. He does washing up and diy.
Hes nearly 40, and hes becoming miserable to be around. Hes permantly exhausted. Fair enough our 9 month old wakes 3 times a night, although i do all the night time wakings. He will get in from work at 1am and up at 9.30am.
He is so tired he is grumpy and short tempered, im semi on eggshells - he wont go to the dr's, and thinks protien shakes are the answer!. I tried to talk to him this morning and its like banging my head on a brick wall...a few examples ( there are hundreds moe).
We had all 3 kids last weekend though their mum picked them up at 3pm on sunday to go on holiday. I assumed we would go to the beach/pool etc with DD9m. He arranged to go on a long bike ride with friends...we agreed he would be back between 6.30 and 7pm. He left late then didnt get back until 8.50pm...couldn't understand why i was upset as i had only mentioned I might go swimming or it might be nice to put baby to bed and have a coupley evening.
I worked last night he asked if there was paperwork. I said yes...names need to be written on the front on all 8 sets. I found out this morning he wrote initals on 1 set...on the back. When i calmly said i asked for it to be on the front he got very defensive...i said i dont understnad the problem we'll just redo it (very calmly) he got up and walked off. Left me to catch up the remaining 7 sets.
Wednesday is my evening where i go to spinning and swim. Without asking he has booked in swimming from 6-9pm (hes also swimminh today 1-2pm) which means I'll miss my session as the 2 DSD are away. No asking- i was told. I said that upset me, id most likely have said yes if he asked...he couldnt understand why i was a bit peeved and again got all defensive and said all sarcastically - I'll always ask your permisson before i do anything...he wouldnt listen or be sensible, and went around in cicrces so i left it.
I then went on to say...how can i better bring things up when i feel i need to that doesnt upset or anger you. He said he didnt care...i said would he rather instead i be quiet and end up resenting him, or should i bring things up in a different way...he again said he didnt care and he didn't have a preference.
Ive gone to tesco...hes gone for swimming session 1 of the day.
Mid life crisis, exhaustion or bit of a twat?