he knows I'm not happy with how things are, he lets his parents know we're experiencing difficulties but no mention at all as to WHY. I feel like I've put up with irresponsible, selfish behaviour for as long as I possibly can. I've been married & divorced previously but that was much easier as I did not have kids.
This time, I have the kids but no marriage etc. i can not be unfair and say he does not put the older ones to bed more than me, he'll also get up with them too. BUT this is as much as he does - hard as he works full time but on the weekends, he will not interact with them. No playing, barely even talks to them unless it's to tell one of them not to do something.
Then there's the money issue.
He went out the first couple of friday nights this month, no big deal apart from he KNEW this month was going to be a struggle financially. I have no idea how much he 'blew' on these nights out but he finished work midday and did not get home until almost 12 hours later - unable to walk without falling, has no idea of what state he was in the next morning nor remembers any conversations etc he had! I didn't question as to how much he'd blown as asked a question about money (but not 'how much did you spend') to get the response 'well it's my money' YES, you work to earn it, I know I know but we have kids to feed.
We agreed when pregnant with eldest I'd stay at home to raise, especially as a couple more have come along & one child has LDs. I get carers allowance which I am using to buy/pay for everything the kids need.
He pays the rent, council tax. The tax credits pays for electric, gas & food for us - with top ups of cheap bits the children may need. The rest of his wage seems to pay off his mounting debt (that he keeps taking out without discussing and then leaving the following month short - he still hasn't told me there's a big chunk coming out end of this month so god knows what's going to happen or if he'll even mention it at all...) and then blown on whatever takes his fancy - drinking sessions, online gambling, alcohol etc.