Did I expect too much and am I too sensitive?

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I'm single and going over my past relationship. I think I just want some views on it so that moving forwards I have a clearer mindset of what is and isn't ok and where I may be going wrong.

I always felt my ex wasn't always supportive, yet he claimed to be all the time. He had no time for people who were miserable (his ex had depression and he ended their relationship over that). My ex had his own problems, for instance in the past he has been seriously unwell. He never moped around and didn't see himself as a victim so I suppose he practised what he preached! However, there were times when I felt I just couldn't talk to him. One time I had a problem in my house which cost a lot of money to fix, I was in a state working out how to pay for stuff and was a bit quiet one morning. He called me weak and pathetic and he "didn't have time to talk about shit like that with me."

I know he had a point - what's the point in stressing about it! But I couldn't help how I felt and his comments just made me more upset and made me feel very alone. There were various examples of this, where I didn't feel I could share any concerns in case he deemed them ridiculous. Do I have a problem with being too sensitive? Do I expect too much?

But, we're all different OP.
What concerns one person wouldn't necessarily concern another.
When you're in a relationship, something that concerns your partner should have some impact on you even if it's not to the same degree.
Sounds like he didn't want you to express concerns about anything unless he deemed those concerns worthy.
Happy for you that he's an ex.

Thanks. I tried so hard with him and everything I did seemed to be wrong. At the start he was all over me, all the time, and then as time progressed he started to compare me to other women, even asked me why I didn't have a particular type of handbag "like most women."

I feel like i don't know how to be in a relationship anymore.

In one of our last conversations we were talking about a friend's wedding and how it was going to be an all nighter (they are big drinkers) and I said "i'll have to be on form for that!" jokingly...as in I'm not usually up all night. He said "you should always be on form around me." I just felt so pressured, like everything had to be so perfect for him without any flaws. It was exhausting and I never measured up.