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DH ogling young teen

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Jules439 · 25/07/2018 00:26

Happened on holiday and I can’t get it out of my mind. DH is in his forties, we were in a restaurant when a young teen walked past with her parents. She was about 14. DH looked her up and down and got a hard stare from her dad. I remember being that age and having creepy married men staring and felt sorry for their wives. He denies even seeing her. Our DD is nearly 12 so it creeps me out even more. He’s normally a nice, respectful guy so should I just write this off as a one-off thing?

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SandyY2K · 25/07/2018 00:53

He denies even seeing her.

So why the stare from her dad?

He needs to watch himself or one dad may take a swing at him.

Katgurl · 25/07/2018 01:21

I wouldn't like that. Was he definitely ogling her in a leery manner or just staring confused at some bizarre teenage haircut / outfit.

My dp could not take his eyes off a girl not more than 20 (he's 48, I was 39) on our last day of hols last year. The ogling, comments lasted almost an hour. I was furious with him. It was humiliating.

Does he normally openly stare? Is her age the main problem? If so, did she look very mature for her age?

I think if you have raised it and it was a one-off then there is no point rehashing. I know you probably keep replaying the scene in your head but it will fade and once it's not replaced with a similar incident you can forget about it.

Perfectly1mperfect · 25/07/2018 01:32

If she was clearly as young as 14 then it's disgusting. Our son is 14, if I thought his dad was looking at girls in my sons year in this way I wouldn't want anything to do with him. It's up to you, you know him best. Do you believe he doesn't remember seeing her?

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