Spent evening with colleague - now he ignores me.

[Polarbears1]

A colleague of mine who I had not spoken to much asked me for a drink a few weeks ago- it was a nice evening and I was enjoying the attention given I had just (after a long time) got over my previous relationship which had left heartbroken. He asked if he could come back to my hotel room to use the loo to which he then tried it on with me - one thing led to another and we fooled around a bit. I have since found out he is in a relationship to someone who is very religious and so their relationship is not physical which explains his persistence that eve. He has completely ignored me since which has left me angry at myself for letting this happen. I'm not longing for him as he is clearly an unpleasant person for doing that to his girlfriend, however I feel low about it all and upset that it's now very awkward at work which is affecting my work. Any advice on how to shake this low feeling?

Don't feel low, his behaviour reflects badly on him not on you. Hold your head high and don't be angry with yourself. You weren't know he's an arsehole. Chalk it up to experience and maintain a professional relationship at work. Perhaps avoid further workplace hook-ups.

What a horrid man.

No regrets, Polar! You weren’t to know he is an absolute bastard. What a piece of work.

He's a total shit and a real prize bastard.

Keep your head up lovely. It's totally understandable that you feel low and awkward, but you've nothing to be ashamed of. Ignore him as much as you can. Arrange some nice social events or catch ups with old friends. Do something to treat yourself. It's ok to feel a bit shit - it will pass

Thanks for the replies everyone, it's a big help already going forward. An experience I will learn from....and will keep my head held high!

Well done Polar 🌟

Glad to hear it

You’ve done absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. He has. He’s deceived you and cheated on his girlfriend. I hope he’s mortified. He deserves to be, the little shit. Look at it this way - he’s a cheater and you had a lucky escape. He’s have done it to you eventually.

He sounds like a real prize. Not. Move swiftly on. He's embarrassed himself, and knows it.

Pull on your big girl pants, breeze around your workplace like nothing happened and watch him start to take notice of you again. Then when he does you can laugh and tell him what a disappointment he was in the bedroom, cue tinkly laugh. Then head up, tits out move on. Big hugs