I want to move but feel guilty and confused

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nc for this. Basically I live with teen dcs in former matrimonial home. It was a few years back exh left (for OW, it was a painful ending) and despite counselling, redecorating etc I have never felt the house is 'mine' and feel ready to move on and make a fresh start. Plus long term I can't afford to stay (mortgage, upkeep etc) but dcs don't want to. If I move it will be hard on them, I'll need to move from a house to a flat, and I've been here ages. I feel confused how- what if I can't find somewhere we all like or if I regretted it? It would be entering into aggro if dcs are unhappy. But on the other hand I feel like I need and am ready to move on, and my life is 'on hold' while I'm here. Plus lots of painful memories here. WWYD?

If you can't afford it long-term, its best to move now, when you're not under the cosh financially and can take your time. It would be awful to be forced by circumstances to move, which is what would happen eventually if you stated put.

Involve the DCs in the househunting process if they're old enough.

Thank you super that's a good point and helpful. Knowing I got to do it anyway it's kind of hanging over me. I will involve the dcs but in the end they may not like it which does feel hard, but they will be staying in the area and the same schools. I do feel like I can never relax here with all the bad memories of exh.