Did anyone lose hope of a family and husband in their thirties and have a happy ending to share?

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Feeling really low.

90 percent of people in my life are married with children. I really want a husband and family but as I enter early to mid thirties I feel like it won't happen.

Any happy stories to share?

Nope late thirties without either. Sorry.
I’m sure someone will come on and tell you otherwise
Pretty depressing, but you’re younger so you’ve got time.
Mine has run out pretty much

Hi. Met DH at 35, had DS at 39. I had pretty much given up. It can happen.

I’m in the same boat! Was married late 20’s but he ran off after a year. 30s ticking by and wondering if there’s any nice men left who aren’t marrying and having babies right now.

DD's friend's mum met her husband at 40, they had DTs when she was 44.

I met my now husband at 37 (nearly 38). Have a toddler and another on the way (I'm 41). Never thought it would happen to me, but it did. It can happen.

Had been single for years at 33. Now 36 (nearly 37) and am married, we've bought a family home and are starting to try for children.

Finally got together with DH when i was 34 although we first met 10 years before that - but he wasnt interested in a longterm relationship at that time. I had given up when we met again, got married and had 2 kids - 28 years ago now!

Yes! Met husband at 39 and first DS at 42.

Yep. Met DH at 33 (via OLD) after a pretty much 99% single 20s/early 30s.

Married at 37. Had DS at 39.

It can happen. I do think you have to put yourself out there somehow though. Doing OLD was massively out of my comfort zone.

I feel a lot of sympathy for you. You are not alone. I spent my twenties and thirties in relationships with men who didn’t want children. I was in despair, frankly. Eventually, I got my own place and signed up for internet dating. Finally, just short of 39 I met a man online who wanted what I did. I had both my children in my 40s, fortunately very easily.

Not quite the same, but I have a cousin who was single until her fifties and then met someone and now lives abroad within a huge enthusiastic extended family of step-children, step-grandchildren and a lovely community.

There’s a big difference between 34 and 39
In terms of still being single.

Met my lovely DP at 34 via OLD. I have never been happier. Expecting first child now three years later.

If 90% of people in your life are married with children then I suggest you go out and find some single friends to knock about with - or get friendly with the remaining 10%. Why not get a holiday booked as something to look forward to? Get out of the house.... meet and mingle! If it’s any consolation I met my husband at 35 and had my daughter at 41. There’s no guarantees of course but you never know when someone special will apppear.

My grand mother met my grand dad when she was 40, he was 45, they had my mum, their first (and only obviously!) child 5 years later. That was quite something in the late 1940s!

Was single for 6 years and thought it would never happen for me as I was 36, but I met my other half on tinder and 5 years later we own a house, and are talking of getting married - don't give up hope, it only takes one....

Split up with my fiancé aged 32, met my current partner at 36 and had a kid at 38.

Yep - met DH in late thirties. Now have 2 kids. Few of started a dating ‘action learning set’ and got ourselves sorted

Met dh at 34. Had dd at 36. Still together.

Me too OP.

I had a DD at 32, got cheated on and left and spent most of my thirties feeling like I would never meet anyone decent again. At 37 I sat at a wedding with 2 elderly widows who laughed and told me to get proactive and online.

Turn 41 in 2 months, got married in May, expecting in November. OLD, DH a little younger, never been happier.

Four of my very best friends all met their husbands aged 34+. One minute they were single and the next they had found the one.

Split up with waste of space fiancé at 33, met someone else pretty much immediately and had the first of our three children at 34. Still very happy. Plenty of time yet

Just before my 35th birthday I meet my now partner..we are 18month in and trying for a baby! don't give up

Was single at 34, met DH via OLD (another one for whom it was totally out of my comfort zone), had DS as 38, married a year later, still together and happy 10 years on...
I thought it wouldn’t happen - was really despondent as suddenly everyone got married over two or three summers (aged 28-31, really expensive years!).
It can totally be fine!

Left cheating bastard of an exH at 36 after years and years of not only infertility (IVF etc) but latterly finding our he’d being dipping his wick throughout our whole marriage with several other women. I left (obviously) and decided that fate had decreed I’d be alone and not a parent. 4 months later I met a man (chance, friend of a friend) whose own marriage had ended as he was also infertile and the pressures were too much. 3 months later I was pregnant. We’re still very much together now 10 years later with 2 more dc to boot.