Ex sent me pictures of myself 7years on

[ClaryFray]

I'll try and keep this simple but it's a long one. Ex and I split up when DS was 1, messy break up, no contact didn't see DS. Has always paid mauntence because csa ordered it.

Recently given the new system we've had to set up mauntence ourself which lead to numbers changing hands, before then we only had email addresses for eCh other.

Since then we've chatter fairly friendly spoken about DS hes said he'd love to be more involved but at present can't offer ds the consistency he needs due to him going throw a bad almost break up.

Well today he's sent me a message saying he's found some old pictures of me from when we were together. I replied what ones, so he sent me them. Some pictures of me dressed in red undies sexy ones when I was younger, and one of me laid out on the bed in them. With the caption these help.

Why would you do that?
He's with someone, and all be it nothing is happening, and they may or may not be breaking up if she finds them she'll flip and uk worried they could end up on the place, effecting my job.

I feel like hes got me over a barrel with cms needing to stay amicable because of the money. And these pictures now.

Help?

He’s trying to manipulate you.

If he threatens you with these photographs go straight to the police, it’s a crime. Don’t allow him to blackmail you.

Do you want him back?
I would Ignore those messages completely and only correspond with him about access/maintenance and being civil. do not reply, or if you really have to quickly change the subject and do not show any emotion over the photos. If you engage with him about the photos he will only get worse (poss start asking for photos etc) and it is a slippery slope.

Ew, that's a really creepy thing to do!
Not only is he trying to pretend he'd be more involved with dc to suck up to you, he's making pathetic excuses why he isn't. All at the same time as telling you his relationship isn't going well. He's angling for a shag! Creepy bastard.
Perhaps a gentle warning about telling gf disguised as "hope your girlfriend doesn't find out you're sending naughty pictures of me to me because, while I know you're not trying to try it on with me, because you know I would never fall for that, she might not see it that way". All nice and friendly like.

Get maintenance signed and legal asap and then cut contact.

Just ignore. Don't answer at all. Don't give it all any oxygen. What a creep. Don't feed it with attention.

Only respond when he asks a direct question about your DS. Then answer pleasantly enough.

But NO MORE CHATTING.

CMS don't need you to be civil.

Knock off the chatting and only discuss your dc from here.

Respond saying thanks for the pictures, please destroy them now before I seek legal advice