Inconsiderate MIL!

[Miasmom]

Hi all! Sorry for a rant,
My MIL is a nice enough woman she just lacks any common sense. I’m due my child any day now and I would be very uncomfortable to leave my child in her care without supervision. She has 5 big dogs which she doesn’t shut away or put outside when we go over to their house. She lets them jump up my pregnant self and doesn’t see a problem with this. Would it be unreasonable to not let her care for my child if I feel she would be extremely unsafe? Her own children are always bruised and cut because she doesn’t watch them, and my partners sister doesn’t even take her take her daughter over which is ringing alarm bells for me. My partner is very angry with my opinion on this and sees no issue with his mother’s actions. Any advice would be appreciated!

this sounds a very stressful conversation, considering you are currently pregnant.

How does your partner answer when you argue about the MIL's own children being bruised and cut and that his sister doesn't take her daughter there?

what is he like in other ways?

Children should never be allowed unsupervised near dogs, let alone babies.

I think you're being sensible and protective of your little one. Point out to your partner about the bruises etc of his siblings - does he not care about them?

You are being sensible by indeed not wanting to take your baby over to his mother's. And no she is not a nice enough woman either because she has no real concern for her own children, you or your as yet unborn child.

You also have a problem re your partner too. Why is he so afraid of his mother that he would rather see his child get potentially hurt by one of his mother's dogs?. He seems far more afraid of her than he ever is or would be of you. How is their relationship overall, it does not sound at all healthy in any case and your partner seems mired in his own fear, obligation and guilt. This is what is driving his own anger towards you and his own inertia re his mother is simply hurting him as well as you.

Google and print off some gone wrong incidents of sackless folk who mix ddogs +dc when they aren't under control /supervision.
Your dh is a numpty.
Stick to your guns op.

You're right to be concerned, you're not being at all unreasonable and you aren't saying you don't like your mil or that you don't ever want to see her.

Good luck.

I've noticed that some people who are really into dogs have a blind spot over the real risks dogs can pose to small children and babies. They just don't see it.

You may have to talk it over with DP, using real examples of attacks by dogs their owners thought were safe, as Readyfortheschoolhols suggested.

Perhaps go back to basics and talk him through the issues. Ask what he can imagine could potentially go wrong with 5 big dogs and a baby? Why does he think his sister doesn't take her DD to the house?

Why do you still go there while pregnant?

Keep your baby away from her house.