Whats “normal” dating communication 2 months in?

[sunshiney78]

I’ve been seeing someone for coming up to 2 months now. We see each other on average once, rarely twice a week. I last saw him last Thursday (4 days ago). I have a DC, he has no DC. He asked when we’re seeing each other again and I suggested Wed or Thurs this week as I don’t have DC. He said “can’t, how about this W/end?” Weekend is a little trickier for me, but doable, so I agreed. I asked casually what he was doing Wed & Thurs & he replied “plans with friends”. I don’t really care about what he’s doing specifically, but it just feels a bit odd because I say things like “went to see Mama Mia with x” or “taking DD for a picnic”.
All day today I received one text from him, 2 words, which was a reply to a text I sent him.
Just wanted your opinion on if this is normal, as I’m just over a year out of a marriage, so not sure if I’m being needy, or he’s being unenthusiastic/disinterested (in which case I don’t want to waste my time).
The only way I can think of to describe it is I feel like a friendly dog, whilst he’s an aloof cat!

Not sure what's ' normal' but reading that I would be be happy with that
I would say he should be making more effort and I agree about saying what you're doing
' plans with friends '
2 months in, really?!
Warning signs for me x

Sorry I would NOT be happy x

OP if he's making you uncomfortable because he's not being open with you then drop him. Even if you don't know his friends' at 2 months he should at least say what he's doing.

Have you had the exclusivity conversation? Because it sounds like he's got some dates lined up.

As above he could have dates lined up. It might be good to ask him if he is still dating. People can have different expectations and it can lead to crossed wires over this

Other possibility- if his plans are more complicated (with his friends), its a bit difficult over a written message. Ask him how his week was/if hes been up to much when you see him and see if he mentions it?

If hes cagey about what hes been doing then I might back off this one.

We have had the exclusivity conversation. I’m a little miffed that he doesn’t want to see me sooner of his own accord, and busy on the 2 nights in a row that I’m free, with vague “plans with friends”
And I know he’s not a big texter, but 2 words in 24 hours?
I don’t even know how to articulate to him why I feel like something’s off.

Sounds like he might be being a little bit awkward. Maybe he finds it annoying that he has to fit in around you all the time (even though you have no choice in that). Maybe I'm reading too much but it does have a distinct hint of that.

I wouldn't be happy either OP.

I know that no two relationships are the same but for comparison, I've been with DP for 5 months and we've spent literally every single night we've had free, together. We haven't even discussed it, it's just been automatic because we've been so keen to see each other.

Someone being so disinterested and also unforthcoming about their plans would be a red flag for me.

Thank you. Relevant I guess, he says his previous relationship ended because his exp felt that they should have been seeing each other more after x no of months, and he couldn’t do it due to his work & hobbies.

I would be more then happy with that after 2 months. I wouldn’t want any more. But, there’s only one opinion that matters & that’s yours