What would you do?

[Lovelyivy]

What would you do if your husband told you that he has never loved you and still doesn’t . We have a good/average marriage ... 1,5year old boy...got pregnant very shortly into relationship never really experienced the sparkles and being crazy in love traveling, exploring together but I am so in love with him doing every day ordinary things and knowing I can trust him and count him.

I think I’d get out of the relationship as fast as I could, tbh. Sorry.

So sorry to hear this. It sounds like you can't trust him and count on him. Do you think there is someone else?

Definitely not cheating on me...comes home every day straight after work (works with one of my best friends so I know he’s been at work)...

So why did he marry you?

Not sure ... he just thought it was right thing to do when we have a baby

Is he stressed? Having big anxieties?

I don't buy that someone could be with someone like that and not love them.

Could he be lashing out?

I would be hurting so much right now. How can you ever recover from that statement? Clearly you don’t feel the same way. 💐

Marriage counselling to unravel what is going on?

He tends to worry a lot about everything! Maybe he is depressed but when he said it he went on explaining that in past he felt different about his ex’s and there was a love...

Did it work for you before you found this out? Has finding out broken it for you?
My guess is that a heady pragmatic person could make a go of it, but a romantic or needy person couldn’t ( I don’t mean needy to be pejorative, just that some people need someone to put them on a pedestal, and that’s fine).
Are you shocked by what he’s said?

Aww @Lovelyivy, not sure what to say, for you x

Has he ever said the three little words to you?

He never said the three words but I never said them as well ....it’s not my thing even I feel so deeply for him .