Too nice.. should I finish it?

[Tobbay]

I've recently met a man after a turbulent, abusive 3 year relationship.
The new man is sensitive, caring, loving and even after 2 months I can tell her have my back and be there for me always.

BUT.... it's starting to annoy me . Every time I cough or express anything, he's there asking if I'm ok.. when my cat didn't come home one night he was dressed and ready to drive over at midnight... anything I say he'll do, he'll eat what I eat.... he'll watch what I want... I know these things are lovely so why am I annoyed by it??

He doesn't sound what we all want at all.

OP your instincts are spot on! Too much too soon. His behaviour is creepy and unattractive. Once you don't fancy him it's the death knell.

Find someone cheeky, fun and sexy. Do go crazy and go with a psycho.

Balance is the key.

Well I haven't seen him since Saturday and will keep it that way a while I think.
I've gone from controlling, angry and abusive to sickly sweet, passive and suffocating... none of it's right.

I am in the same boat. Found a nice man after having been cheated on but I don’t fancy him and cannot being myself to have sex with him.
He is keeping meeting up to once a week but is in the phone constantly and nothing I can do puts him off. He wants to meet up this weekend and I agreed but just dreading it now. What is wrong with me, he is so nice!

I think the niceness kills any sexual attraction!
How you find the right balance??!

I've had similar. I was in a restaurant one time and the waiter served me a dish that was too nice. It was just too good for me, so I sent it back and asked from them to make it a bit more shit for me.

@Tobbay I have no idea! Maybe if he did something not nice it would help! I have issues!!

He just text me about driving his car too fast! Suddenly I like him again.

Ha! We like the bad boy but then moan about them!

Nothing about this man is ‘too nice’. Frankly, he sounds as if he’s been left in a sock drawer since his last relationship, and is now busily matching himself to a new girlfriend and borrowing all her concerns because he doesn’t appear to have a personality of his own. You’re not attracted to him not because he’s ‘too nice’, but because he’s passive, inert and doesn’t appear to have even the most rudimentary life of his own — there’s nothing to be attracted to.

I would find someone who brings something other than ‘not abusive’ to the relationship. I would also be asking myself serious questions about why your ideas about men are so skewed that you think you are supposed to find this behaviour attractive, and that everyone would.

Op, he appears caring, sensitive and loving..after 2 months you can't know this.

I think your instinct is working for you and something is off. Don't over analyse or blame yourself.

What is his relationship history.
Ex was "too nice", it was however a mask for passive aggressive. It will take 2 years for you to really know him so don't force yourself to like him.

I don’t really see the problem. My partner would want to see me every night, but I keep it to 1-2 nights per week as that’s what suits me. He’d also come and help me look for a lost pet in the middle of the night, if I had one.

Why would you end up walking all over someone just because they didn’t stop you? That doesn’t sound very nice.