Seriously how do you meet someone decent?

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I've been single for about a year and a half and I would love to meet someone new.

I tried a dating evening but it was full of older People. I have done abit of online dating but I often feel the guys are after one thing or too full on. And when I go out I do meet people but they often don't seem right. Any ideas?

Thing is.... this question gets asked regularly on the Relationships board. I'd say at least once a month. The answers are the same every time. Join this club, do this, do that.

But all sorts of factors come into play. If you live somewhere more rural, there will be less clubs to join. Or you'll join a club and find they are all older or married and it's full of women who've read on MN that the place to meet men is at a cycle/rock climbing/karate club and now it's so full of women, there are hardly any men left there!

I know people who've been single 10 years and shouldn't be. I know people who get a new partner within two months every time and you wonder how. Standards, deal breakers and, let's face it, LUCK.

I met my wonderful DP on Tinder of all places.

I did as a few posters have advised and treated online dating as a bit of fun...I was quite lonely in the evenings when DD was in bed so I told myself I was just looking for a ‘pen pal’ and someone to chit chat with on a night.

Obviously there were some ridiculous messages (which gave me a laugh) but then along came DP after many months of amusing conversation! I’m inclined to think it’s mindset