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Ended it with FWB - confused now by his contact

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casual · 23/07/2018 20:13

other night I ended it with guy I’ve been seeing casually, it’s was all very amicable and polite, gave no ultimatum just stared it wasn’t working for me and even though I wasn’t looking for full on marriage etc I need a little bit more and current situation was making me feel used and shitty.

He was polite back, I went to bed and woke up with a message from him saying he was sorry if he ever lead me on he never wanted to hurt me etc and I just responded he hadn’t and all was cool and I didn’t want any awkwardness between us as we will still see each other Socially.

I honestly thought that was the end of it but today he just messaged as usual (he’s only holiday at mo) a joke picture and a picture of him on holiday and s picture of s coffee etc he is having all very normal and polite

Not really sure what to make of it? Don’t want to over analyse but should i read anything into it?

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JustGettingStarted · 23/07/2018 20:14

He wants everything to be OK so he won't feel guilty.

ravenmum · 23/07/2018 20:18

Trying to make it less awkward by not suddenly cutting off all contact, and acting in a friendly way?

serialtester · 23/07/2018 20:23

He might really like you?

butlerswharf · 23/07/2018 20:29

Maybe he just still wants the benefits part?

casual · 23/07/2018 20:30

Possibly just trying to be polite, I have just politely responded to his messages only with a thumbs up or saying looks like a lovely place etc.

He really isn't a bad guy just can't really give me what I need at present and it was starting to make me feel bad do wanted to end it now on s high before it all ended badly

Guess time will tell

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casual · 23/07/2018 20:32

He knows 100% the benefit part is over and i know he wouldn't go there now after I have told him how I feel as he genuinely would not want to hurt me

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OurMiracle1106 · 23/07/2018 20:34

I’m actually still friends with my former friend with benefits. I met someone and told him we couldn’t continue a sexual relationship as I wanted to see where it led with the new person.

We don’t talk as much now as we did and we aren’t as close but he’s still a good friend and was there through some bad times and for that I will always be grateful.

Maybe he’s hoping you can remain friends and the only thing lost from your friend with benefits relationship is the sexual side.

shinyredbus · 23/07/2018 20:42

maybe he is trying to keep things friendly - you know, as you wanted?

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