So.... this is my situation. I have been seeing a girl with two kids on and off for 18 months. I have one child of my own who is in his teens. I absolutely adore her and the kids. I never thought it would be something id be able to do and take on someone else's children.
It hasn't been really serious due to ex's being involved and other things. But we knew eventually there would be a point it would come together.
Recently we have decided to make a go of things and make it work. Which for me was all i wanted. New start, new family life.
Over the 18 months i have taken the kids on as my own and love having that family life.
However recently things have seemed to of changed.
At first this girl was everything i wanted. Independent, loving, caring, beautiful a great mum. Someone who i could have as a great influence in my sons life. But she now has no patience for me or her own kids. What i thought at first was maybe masked by this front and her true colours are showing through.
I even have a good relationship with my ex and even she has heard things about her and told me to be weary.
It may seem selfish of me to say but its not as i expected. We do have the family life ish, we do enjoy the time but it feels the norm. Like we have been together for years and years and i get the feeling she is not really interested as much as she was at first.
We don't really have sex and when we do its not great ( if you know what i mean) but was at first.
She shows no or very little affection anymore. I've spoken to her about it and all i get is a negative response or a quick change of subject.
I honestly thought this is what i wanted but now after the way she is and has been i'm now wondering if its what i want.
Is it me being to soft and actually ignoring that fact that its not really meant to be?