Argh! Why am I being so weird?

[LindyLA]

Hi
I think I’ve really messed up. Ive got two grown up daughters that I’ve concentrated on over the last 12 years of being a single mum. No relationships. 5 months ago I met a lovely guy that I clicked with. He has a 7 year old boy and he has 50% custody which I liked as I thought he wouldn’t be a weirdo etc and didn’t think too much into the future etc.
Now I’ve gone and fallen for him and realised , at the age of 51 , if I want to settle down with him which I can see happening, I’ll have years of more kid stuff/ teenage stuff etc ! Arrrgh! He’s pretty obsessed with him which is good I know and a great dad, but also I can’t help feeling a bit jealous. I know I’m being a complete cow but I’m thinking I’ve messed up as I love this guy to bits. He’s just received the calendar for school hols too and it means no holiday for us either as he has him a lot of the time. Has anyone been through this and had these feelings ?

Aaand breathe. It's been 5 months. 20 weeks. It is not a long term relationship yet and a,lot can happen in new relationships!
He can go on holiday with you around having his child. You don't need to cancel the reception just yet.

You’re right.. told you I was being a total nut job lol!

I don't think you're a nut job - it's very sensible to think about the practicalities of a relationship. And while being swept away by love can feel intensely exciting, it's not always conducive to long term happiness.

In any relationship people have to accommodate each other's families, jobs, etc. It's good that you're thinking about what you want and need, and whether this man can offer it.