Reassure me - post violence and children

[goingviaswindon]

I'm not long left an abusive partner (inc violence towards me) and id like to hear stories or reassurance from others who have done similar that everything settled down and ultimately dad has been ok to parent

All I seem to hear are horror stories ... is that really going to be the 20 years?

Anyone? Maybe I need to rephrase this...

I did.
He was okay until the teenage years.
I mean ok but not great. No more than one night - took two years to build up to that.

He was always trying to get back with me through them.

Then he exploded (not physical) at dd, I shot over there calling police on way.

He was arrested and given a caution.
NC now.

P.s. Someone will probably recommend the freedom program to you. I did it. Don't bother. They insist you forgive. Fuck that.

What was he arrested for?

Threatening behaviour