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When did you last just be a couple?

38 replies

noddyholder · 30/05/2007 10:44

Ds is in Italy atm for 9 days and it is just dp and me here.He has gone back to work today after 5 days off which we spent together just the 2 of us.For the first 2 days we talked about and missed ds a lot and then we went back to being us before kids.Very weird indeed.It gave me a taste of what it will be like when we are much older and it wasn't as scary as I thought We do actually like each other and it is the humdrum of every day life which causes all the niggling and rows etc.Can't wait for ds to come home but it has been a real eyeopener and I think we really needed it

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noddyholder · 30/05/2007 11:20

bump

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popsycal · 30/05/2007 11:21

almost 5vyears ago

MaMonkey · 30/05/2007 11:22

Last time was before our daughter was born.

She is 14 months now, and I'm really starting to want a bit of grown up time. My husband doesn't seem to care so much though.

kittylette · 30/05/2007 11:23

vey very noddy !

Id love that,

I cant remember the last time we were jsut a couple, when we went to the cinema maybe about 6 months ago but i was attacked by a crackhead lady on the way home so not too fun, lol.

Hulababy · 30/05/2007 11:25

Just me and DH, with no child or friends either?

Without DD but with friends around, we are lucky and we often get nights out whilst DD stays over at a grandparents. last time was two weekends ago, next will be a week on Friday.

Without friends around either, and just me and Dh, very rarely other than a few hours on above said weekends. Infact properly away together, alone, just once since 5yo DD was born - that was about 2 years ago now!

oliveoil · 30/05/2007 11:30

inlaws have girls over night about 4 times a year

I don't ask for more than that as MIL has them for 3 days when I work so she needs a bit of peace

they have them sometimes on weekends for the day - so we have a nice lunch, go shopping etc

I don't mind though tbh, we like staying in and they are both in bed for 7pm so we have our evenings

madmarchhare · 30/05/2007 11:30

On holiday last week. We went with my mum who babysat while we went out one night. We got silly drunk on cocktails and had a good old laugh, joked about things that only we knew why it was funny . It was nice to see that it was still possible.

We are lucky enough to get a few nights away at once most years.

tiredemma · 30/05/2007 11:32

We are lucky to get away quite a lot on our own and with groups of adult friends.

Its nice to be just 'us'...but we love getting back to the boys

ComeOVeneer · 30/05/2007 11:34

Saturday afternoon through to Sunday lunch time. Then from when he gets home from work tomorrow night until next Sunday lunch. Am really looking forward to it.

tiredemma · 30/05/2007 11:36

off subject COV- can I pick your dental brains a mo?

hana · 30/05/2007 11:36

have a night away planned for July when we're visiting my parents and I can't wait - will be first night away for about 2 years
yipee!!
get a babysitter about once a month or so, but usually out with friends for dinner

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noddyholder · 30/05/2007 11:37

I didn't think I was bothered either but now I can see how important it is to maintain that relationship because there will come a time when the kids aren't there adn you will be back to you I have had odd nights and weekends but never this length of time and it really started to feel different after about 3 days I have started to see him as an interesting person again and not just the person who takes out the bins and gets on my nerves.Also all the sex has made me feel really weird .

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ComeOVeneer · 30/05/2007 11:37

Pick away.

PinkTulips · 30/05/2007 11:37

before dd was born

i miss it

MrsJetson · 30/05/2007 11:37

Tonight!! DH is taking me out for a dinner. Looking forward to it!

Blackduck · 30/05/2007 11:38

3 days in Bilbao at Easter (wonderful!)

tiredemma · 30/05/2007 11:40

Noticed a few weeks ago that Ds1 second tooth ( front incisor?) was starting to go yellow- thought it was plaque but would not remove with brushing- took him to dentist who just said " yes, his other teeth may come through like it aswell- we will keep an eye on it"- that was it.

I looked at the notes on theway out and it said 'hypoplasia'- Wrongly, Ive googled it and given myself nightmares.
What is it and what can I do to ( if poss) to try and ensure all of ds's teeth dont come through the same?

in the grand scheme of things its not a major thing I suppose- but It really makes his tooth look awful, and he is getting paranoid about it ( ie not smiling!)

meowmix · 30/05/2007 11:40

our tenth wedding anniversary 3 years ago, MIL had ds for the night and we stayed in a hotel overnight and went to a museum and spent hours jabbering about general rubbish. Fab. Roll on 15th wedding anniversary.

GrumpyOldHorsewoman · 30/05/2007 11:51

DH went to work in Dubai in Sept 2000. In the November I went over on my own to visit him for 3 days. That was the last time. We did go out for an anniversary dinner the following year (2001), but it was hardly an evening out - we ordered, we ate, we went home. Done and dusted in about 1 hr! He's too busy, I have DDs hanging off me all the time and we have no friends or family within 200 miles to babysit for us. Nigh on impossible to do 'owt.

ComeOVeneer · 30/05/2007 12:07

Tiredemma I will start a new thread for you so we don't hijack this one.

OrmIrian · 30/05/2007 12:14

Gawd knows . We had a night out a few months back but it's such a hassle arranging a babysitter and getting the kids ready that it's more trouble than it's worth just for a few hours. I think that a few days would be very different noddy. We need it because atm I am wondering wtf I'm doing with this moody, self-centred, miserable sod but it will pass.......

eidsvold · 30/05/2007 12:16

what's that although dh and I are off to see Miss Saigon sans children in August - really looking forward to it. having a newborn and a child with special needs means there are not a lot of ready and willing baby sitters around.

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ComeOVeneer · 30/05/2007 12:22

for tiredemma

Chopster · 30/05/2007 12:26

we had three nights away at easter, went to the south of france. It was lovely, we were relaxed and could really enjoy each other's comapny and had great fun. It really did us good too, the effects have lasted and we are trying to make more time for ourselves. I think everyone needs a break but I know it is difficult. This was our first complete break in about 3 years.