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New relationship

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UndertheCedartree · 22/07/2018 22:21

I have been in a new relationship for 8 months. I've been very happy, my children have got to know him and like him. We have talked about moving in together in the future.

When I think about our future together I feel confident that we are well suited, our dynamic as a family is good. But there is one thing that worries me. He has told me about his childhood and his dad was abusive to his mum and him physically and emotionally. I also had a similar childhood. He has told me he would never raise his hand to a woman or child and indeed he has never been aggressive towards me when we've had the usual arguments couples have. He is good at talking things through and open minded to look at things in a new way etc - which I see as very positive. However he does sometimes pretend to slap my face i.e slap me across the cheek really gently in a jokey way or smack my bum. I also sometimes do the same to him. I'm confused as to if this is ok or the thin edge of the wedge? Sorry if this doesn't make much sense I'm not sure how to explain it.

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Pickleypickles · 22/07/2018 22:32

I guess it depends on A) the context in which it happens and B) his response if you told him you didn't like it and to stop.

If it worries him tell him and ask him to stop, if he's the nice guy you think he is then he will be mortified and not do it again.

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