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Alcoholism

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jlm2514 · 22/07/2018 20:22

Have name changed for this.
I think I just need to get something out To someone before my head explodes. Currently been with oh for 5.5 years, 1 dc another on the way. We were both pretty young when we got together so we both drank etc went out as normal teenagers/young adults do. I soon realised his dm had a major alcohol problem I could write for days but that's another story, I've recently had abusive voicemails off of her I'm a slag our next baby isn't my ohs he needs a dna test im a dirty whore etc etc. This is due to the fact she has limited contact with my son and she cannot seem to fathom why. She attacked me last year. There are more things but i don't think you'd stick around to read. My partner has been drinking more and more over the past few years. It changes him he's like jekyll & hyde and it worries me as I seem him morphing into her. We've just comeback from a party which I literally had to beg him to come home from as he's at work tomorrow, up early hours of the morning. We got in he's saying he could have fucked so and so (his words) as they were saying our son is beautiful. I don't know how that means she wanted him but anyway. He then wanted to play music on this Speaker he couldn't find it so he was then screaming at me to find it that it was my problem if I didn't and he would fuck right off. I'm upstairs in the bedroom not daring to move so as I don't wake him up as he's now passed out on the sofa. I don't even know why I'm writing this I've just had enough of this shit show of a family I've been involved in. It's draining I'm 6 months pregnant and it's one stress after another he'll be a completely different person when he wakes up but why does alcohol do this to people? Is he this way because his dm is is it genetic? Luckily our other dc is staying with my parents tonight as they are taking him on holiday tomorrow morning. Sorry for the rant more has occurred over the years I just felt I needed to get these few days worths our before I explode

OP posts:
Tara336 · 22/07/2018 20:48

I don’t think it’s genetic as my DB is an alcoholic and I’m not. BUT I do think alcohol turns people in to assholes or bigger ones then they are sober. I have gone NC because of an incident 7 years ago involving my niece being held hostage by him while drunk because my SIL dared to have a night out. I wish I could say it gets better but it only will if he gives up the drink my DB hasn’t and is as nasty as ever (I hear through the grapevine). I worry for niece but there’s nothing I can do or say that will make it stop. I’ve taken him to the doctors and watched him admit he’s depressed and drinks, then tells everyone the councillor the doctor got him says there’s nothing wrong!

I can’t pity someone who is destroying everyone around him knowingly. I’m sure there will be lots of people telling you it’s an illness and I agree it is of sorts. Every illness has an affect on those around them and some people will do anything to get better others just don’t care enough about themselves or anyone else to try.

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