Childish boyfriend

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So my boyfriend worked for my dad for a few years (working with family is not a good idea!) and we also lived with him for around a year before we got our own house, at the end of last year tensions got so high they no longer speak to each other. The issue is that my dad would be willing to put it aside but my boyfriend can’t separate work from family and refuses to talk to my dad full stop he won’t even come to family events where’s he will be, I’ve tried to speak to him about it and asked him to be civil for my sake but he won’t its his birthday today and my mum and Dad got him a card with some money and he won’t accept it because it’s off my dad, it’s really starting to affect me now o hate not being able to do things as a family with my boyfriend. He’s 25 years old and shouldn’t be be holding grudges like this, what can I do??

Tell him how much it means to you and ask him to do it for you. If he won't, find someone a bit more grown up

Dump him and move on.

Does he still work for your Dad? I'm guessing not, if there is such bad blood there.

But if he can't respond in an adult fashion and get past this, then you're forever going to be caught between them - do you want this to be your life? And, more importantly, do you want to stay with an immature grudge holder?

This is all assuming that your BF doesn't actually have a REALLY good reason for hating your dad - he might have, of course.

You can dump him. If this is how he deals with problems he’s not going to be any use in the future. Do you want to have children with a man who cares so little about you? What kind if message does that send to them?

Your parents have tried, you’re upset, he won’t do the right thing. He’s selfish. Find someone who cares about you.

I'd dump him. He's a child.

Unfortunately they still work together my dad has sold his business but has to stay part time until November and my boyfriend has been promoted to a manager, I have been letting it slide as I can’t see a resolution while they are on top of each other every day so I’m hoping that once my dad leaves they can put it behind them then !

But that still leaves you stuck with a manchild who has no ability to behave like a grown-up in problem-solving situations.
Unless, as I said before, he has a REALLY good reason for his feelings towards your Dad, then this really isn't an ideal relationship - your BF needs to grow up.