When you realise

[pinkpixie83]

What do you do when you realise you mean nothing to anyone?

I have my children but they aren't the same are they, not while they are still young.

But other than that I don't mean anything to anyone.

No one would miss me if I wasn't around, no one makes any effort to contact me unless I contact them first.

I am literally alone all of the time.

I think, kindly, you might be in a pit and that skews your view.
I felt like this when I was really down but now I realise how many people love and care about me. Could you start a hobby to make some new friends?

I don't know but I feel exactly the same.
You will mean lots to your children though, even if they don't show it.

Sorry you haven't had more replied, please don't take as any reflection on you personally. I just think propel don't know what to say.
I agree that it sounds like you (& probably me..) are low and that's probably reflecting how you perceive things.
What are you up to today with your DC? I'm guessing you're on your own with them?

On my own. They have actually gone to their dads which I hate as well because it leaves me with even less.

Unlikely to be a reflection on you OP. Maybe the majority of the people in your life are wrapped up in their own lives.

I feel the same a lot of the time tbh. Something a bit rubbish happened to me a few weeks ago. I told a bunch of people (close friends/family etc) who were shocked but no one messaged or called later on to see if I was ok.

You are probably important to lots of people. They just don't always show if! Do you have self esteem issues?

I probably do have slight self esteem issues, but their are only so many times you can ask your friends if they would like to do something and get knocked back.
Weekends are family time. As like most everyone is busy in the week. But that doesn't leave me with nothing. I can't seem to meet other single like minded people.

I had no friends who were 'true' friends for a while. Making new friends really helps, there are people out there that are like you! Sometimes it just takes a while to find them.

Hi just want to say you are not alone. I often feel the same as you. Despite being married and having good friends I just don't feel very happy and feel that no one would miss me either and that I'm a burden to everyone.
I'm waiting for some therapy at the moment to go through these issues. Have you thought of counselling or anything?

It can be a really tough time when the kids are at their dad's and everyone you know is doing family things. It stands to reason, though, that there will be other women in the same position.

Have you thought of trying your MN Local and posting something there? You might find someone will jump at the chance to meet up.

Is there a gym you could go to? I think if you start to do things at the same time at the weekend, you'll meet people who share the same routine.

Does your ex have the children every weekend? When is it you're free?

Do you do things with your friends sometimes? I remember living on my own and feeling like this, and I had to ring my mother and arrange to meet for a walk in a park, which made me feel ridiculous. However gradually you meet new friends, or become friends with work colleagues, or start a new relationship, or join some groups and slowly build up connections. Take the advantage of this time on your own to make a plan for the next 12 months, and then take some steps to do some of the actions eg join several groups.

You are definitely not alone, it is the worst feeling!
Please know that people do care and your children especially love you unconditionally even if they don't show it. You need to talk to someone (friend / family member), chances are they will have no idea you are feeling this way and will help whatever way they can. Talking does wonders and things will get better. It's just hard to see when you are stuck so low. Xx