I posted a while ago 're separating from my partner... we have been together for 15yrs have 2 toddlers and a baby due in 6 weeks... he's left now and I'm struggling... I'm heartbroken - not for our relationship as such - that ended 2yrs ago when he became involved in drug use and was never around, but I miss my best friend.! He is being so unreasonable and cruel... the past few months have been hell as the drug use escalated so much that he ended up in hospital in a psychotic state... I wasn't there for him - I went away for 4 days to clear my head.! When he came home we acted normal for a few weeks then had an argument and he left... 4 days later he moved in with a girl 8yrs his junior whom he met in hospital... I'm not even bothered about that apart from the whole friendship thing... I can accept we're over.! My issues are he wants access to our kids in this new flat... hes been there for 6 weeks now, has already introduced this girl to my kids even although I made it clear I wasnt happy with that... I don't feel it's appropriate for the kids given that their relationship is so new and essentially their still getting to know each other.! I'm bending over backwards to be civil, I don't want to fight and argue, I'm even being civil to the girl who is telling me although she's young she is more than ready to take on my kids - what, sorry but there's no need.! I don't want her involved (yet) and have made it clear it's not personal to her - I have no grudges, he destroyed us himself, I don't care about her! I have said I'd be happy 're her involvement when they have been together for let's say 6 months not 6 weeks... I'm being made to feel so unreasonable.! He is acting so out of character at present - none of our friends recognise him, he is drinking a lot, drug use - I'm not sure? He has been getting into trouble with the police, fighting, running around the streets like a boy of 18 not the 30yr old man he is... I've asked for his access to be at his parents for obvious concerns but now he's refusing and wants lawyers etc involved... I feel like I'm caving against my better judgement as I just can't be bothered with the stress... I have 6 weeks left and just want to get my baby here peacefully... it hasn't been an easy journey - I have so many anxieties - my initial reaction to this pregnancy was fear not joy, although he was still living here at the time he wasn't here in any other way and all I could think was another baby to have on my own... my feelings haven't changed and are very much more literal given that he's left... there has been so much stress I'm worried about bonding and coping.! Do I stand my ground 're access..? What do I do..? I don't want to keep the kids from him... its such an uosetting time, on the whole I think I'm dealing with things as I say I've accepted his new relationship but can't help thinking when the baby arrives I'm going to fall apart...