What does a healthy happy marriage look like?

[Curiousquestioning]

A friend recommended Mumsnet so I've decided to try it...

I'm in a bit of a dead-end marriage (I think) but I don't really fancy getting in to it. I've spoken to friends in similar situations and I feel like I now have a really good idea of what an unhealthy, unhappy marriage is like. What I'd really like to know is what does a healthy, happy marriage look like? I'd love to hear from people who are in happy marriages or life-long commitments. The reason I say that is because I think relationships are often good in the early days but the real test is longevity, having children (or not) and withstanding life's challenges together.

What does your version of marital bliss look like?

@Gilliganskitchenisland yes, that could have a bearing as he did say that the conversation would affect his sleep. I could ask him tomorrow when a good time to talk about it would be. It's too important not to talk about. He did say 'pick your moments.' I thought I was choosing well by waiting until we were relaxed etc. but clearly he didn't

Shameless placehold as there’s someone I want to see this. I’m certainly not there. I liked him, certainly, but as much as many of my friends and not more- not enough to close all the windows and doors. But that will be why we are amicably ending (with little sadness on my part).

What struck me in your OP is you asking what our version of "marital bliss" looks like.
I'm not really seeking "bliss" I think that is not realistic. Like when you see these little old couples on the local news, celebrating 70 years of marriage and one says "We've never had a cross word".

By 'your version of marital bliss,' I meant 'your warts & all fully functioning marriage.' I'm well past expecting or hoping for actual bliss, that's for sure!

I couldn't agree more ... those couples who say 'we've never had a cross word.' Blimey! I don't get it! A friend of mine says he & his husband never argue but sadly, my friend fears confrontation so just bitches about his husband instead of dealing with it with him; no wonder they never argue!