Can an abusive man with severe borderline P.D. really achieve a good balanced life through therapy?

[Fatbellymomma]

Anyone know a person like this & were they cured? Cured enough that they no longer fly into abusive rages? My ex has made contact...

Well, you could always tell him that you don't believe him and see if he flies into a rage. (Sorry, not helpful, but I would love the irony of it.)

Why has he contacted you? What is it that he wants to get out of contact (it's really unlikely that he's doing it for your benefit no matter what he might say).

I don't know if it can happen that people can be 'cured', but if I knew someone like that I would continue to stay away from them. Let him live the good life with other people who don't have the bad memories that you have.

Abusive with borderline personality disorder. .. IF this person has GENUINELY made personal progress through therapy then they WILL understand and RESPECT boundaries - ACTION not just words. However how many many many abusive people CLAIM to have changed and profess that they're now "totally fine." ..only to revert into an abusive rage as soon as they don't get what they want?? Just my thoughts. Safety first.

Yes, absolutely. I work with men just like this and with time and high intensity treatment then can learn to manage their emotions successfully.

However, if he is saying he's had treatment and wants you to get back together, ask what treatment he has had and if you want to PM me I am happy to help.

Bumping for other experiences.

I don't know much of the situation but I think if you managed to get yourself out of an abusive situation, regardless of his current status, you may be wise to leave the past in the past. He can test out his newfound health on someone else. You have probably withstood enough and deserve a new clean break with someone you don't have to worry about.

Very unlikely I am afraid