Introducing my DC to partner and his DC

[Itsnotfriday]

I have 3 DC, 8 year old DD, 13 year old DS and 17 year old DS. I've been in a relationship for 3 months now and things have been going really well. He has two DD's, ages 12 and 16. We're thinking it's time to introduce everyone to each other but I'm not really sure what the way to do it would be

Have you met his kids yet (and vv)? I can think of nothing more awful for the kids than trying to get all of you together for a day if the adults haven't even met the kids. I know my teen would be mortified!

Its far too soon in my view to introduce these children to each other and you are well ahead of yourselves here. You and this man are still in the early stages of a relationship and are really still getting to know each other. Three months is no time at all in relationship terms and this may be too much and too soon for all of them.

I've met them briefly a few times but I do think properly meeting them would be best to do before introducing them to my DC

It’s only been 3 months, way too soon.

Involving children at only 3 months in is too soon imo. You don't know much about someone after 3 months.

When would you say would be a better time

id say wait a year but thats probably not what you want to hear.

Personally if it were me I'd also wait a year. When there are children involved on both sides it's incredibly hard work and needs to be handled properly.

I do see why it's better to wait. This is my first relationship since their dad, I wasn't really looking to get into one. I'd known him years ago but it's been a long time and we've had to kind of get to know eachother again.

You’re doing the right thing being cautious op. I’d wait a year to 18 months minimum

3 months?! I'd say at least a year. My ex waited 18 months before he introduced me to his children.

When I met my now dh I met his dc 13,15,17 after about 18 months. Not all at the same time so as not to make a big deal of it.
He met my ds 19 at about the same time.

My oh was in my home when ds arrived home about 9pm. I introduced them, no big deal. Ds knew of his existence.
Asked ds did he want coffee? We all had coffee and chatted a little maybe for 10 minutes. Then ds went to his room. Oh left at 11pm.

We were together 7 years before living together. All boys had moved out except dh's youngest. After another year we got married and my ds gave me away.