What’s the longest you’ve been mad at/not spoken to your partner for?

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H did something yesterday that has left me so angry I’m still shaking and I don’t think my heart rate has gone below 100!
I don’t want to get in to what it is, I know that I am justified to be furious. But I just can’t imagine at what point I’m not going to be furious. We are not speaking. And I finally fully understand where the expression makes my blood boil has come from.

Right now it feels like I cannot calm down and have no idea when I might get over Just curious to know how long other people have felt this kind of rage for!

I don't see how anyone can give a valid opinion without some idea of the offense. Blood still boiling the next day because he forgot to put sugar in your tea is OTT but if you found him shagging your BFF quite normal. Personally, the very few things that might cause me to be at blood boiling point would be relationship enders and we've never been there. I can't remember the last time I went above slightly miffed with my OH snd that usually subsides in a few minutes.

My partner did something very stupid in December. I was shaking livid. It took me 3 days to look at him. It was 2/3 weeks before i actually started getting my head round what he had done.Tbh I considered ending our relationship. 7 months on and it still makes me annoyed. But were through it although still dealing with the consequences. And will be for a good few years. I will leave if he acts the same again.

I think as TooTrue said, a lot depends on the offence & what he has or hasn’t done. Big difference between say cheating & not informing a waiter you don’t want milk with your coffee on holiday.

Hope whatever has happened can eventually be sorted

I agree with TooGood, if it's that bad and you're not able to talk to him or see yourself not being furious it would be time IMO to end the relationship.
I get that relationships are bloody hard work, I really do, we've been through some really rough times but I've never been so cross that I've not spoken to him about it. If he cheated or did something that made me not want to talk to him it would be the end, but there are only a few things that would be bad enough and if he did he wouldn't be the person I thought he was.

I've had times where he's just annoyed me by so many little things that I've had to take myself away from the situation for a while to calm down. But that's me being hot-headed and needing to reign in my anger more than what he has done. Once I'm calm I can tell him he's bloody annoying and ask him to sort it out without wanting to scream.

It really depends on the offence - I tend not to do the not speaking thing, no matter how incredibly angry I am, I just go and have it out. But I can be very, very angry and also very, very calm. I don't stew, I deal. But that isn't always possible.

As long as you are using the time to calm down and bring yourself to a state where you can speak and address the issue, does it really matter how long it takes? As long as you are not using silence to punish your OH you're entitled to take time to calm down.

If he did something that bad why would you ever stop being furious?