cheating?

[confusedfreya]

Hiya not sure if this is the right place to post. Basically, i am a youngish woman. Ive been in this relationship with a bit of an older man thats turned emotionally horrible and verbally mostly. I have a suspicion that hes cheating on me and really would like advice to know if he is - hes done things like change his password and keep his phone on him all the time. He eyes up every woman that goes past, but then claims to have 'not much of a sex drive' we havent had sex for a bit but how can he not have a sex drive and be looking at Po rn magazines and other women? is it just me? im convinced theres another woman. would really appreciate some advice

That sounds really hard for you. But if he's being emotionally and verbally abusive to you then does it really matter if he's cheating? He's treating you terribly and has no respect for you so just get rid of him. Life is too short to put up with shit like that.

You can leave him without having to know if he’s cheated. He sounds horrible, you don’t want to spend your life with someone like that, do you?

You should leave because he's abusive.

If he is cheating or not is irrelevant.

You are perfectly within your rights to finish the relationship for whatever reason you like, whether he agrees with it or not.
So, if his behaviour is making you unhappy, then ditch him.

Even if he’s not cheating you need to leave him as he sounds vile! Would you tell a friend or your daughter to stay with a man who was emotionally abusing her and making her feel like shit all the time?

My first LTB. He's abusive. Don't waste anymore of your life with him.

He sounds like an entitled creep who is in to objectifying women and abusive to the one he's with. He is abusive and has no respect. Leave him he's not worth it especially as you are young.
From what you've said I would say yes he probably is cheating in some form or another. OW or sex workers etc

Why are you sticking around for poor treatment? You don't need to find out he's cheating to leave, you know.

You can easily leave for the other reasons so finding out about any potential cheating changes nothing

how can he not have a sex drive and be looking at Po rn magazines and other women

A significant amount of men prefer to masturbate to porn (or whatever) than have sex with their partners. There could be a number of reasons from laziness, to fears about their performance, to not wanting actual sexual contact but needing the physical release, to actively witholding sex as a controlling tactic.