A few weeks ago my friend received a message from a Facebook user claiming her boyfriend was married, he immediately checked his "ex's" Facebook too to see if she had a similar message. To me this is very weird not only the message but the fact he still had access to an apparent ex's Facebook. The ex BTW is his separated wife who is pregnant with his child. My friend said that she would message the ex to check that she hadn't received anything similar as the messages were horrible (note this was out of kindness and compassion as she has 0 malice in her heart). He panicked and talked her out of it. Fast forward a few weeks and he's still deciding if he wants to go back to the ex or stay with her (she's now in an emotional state but wanting answers more than anything). She told him that if they split she would give assurances to the ex that from her perspective she would never have to worry about her returning on the scene even as a friend. This is because he told her the ex has had trust issues. He then said the next day someone had messaged his ex and told her all about her so it was pointless sending a message if they broke up.
From my previous posts you know I think he is playing my friend and I'm really starting to worry about it for her. She knows something is wrong but is hiding her head I think due to how amazing she thinks he is. Just in case the man in question is reading this, we all think he is lovely with her but there is something strange. He claims to have his children 4/5 nights a week as their mother doesn't mind.
I'm starting to really think yes he has feelings for her but is torn between going back to a marriage he's already left 4 times for the sake of the kids and being happy with her. I think everyone has already told him 100 times that children need to be loved to be happy and it doesn't matter if that is in 2 homes.
But getting back to it - is this a red flag regarding facebook? To me it seems a bit abusive having control over what an ex sees on their facebook.